The girl you'll love to hate!

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans” —- wise lyrics from a certain song. I was thinking about those words as I was catchin’ up with some friends on all their exciting news and challenges: babies, engagements, splits, and new jobs in other places.

We are halfway through the year now, and I can still remember back in early January when I was, once again, caught up in making New Year’s resolutions that I knew I’d never keep. So many of us —- count me guilty —- often so rigid and entrenched in our plans that we forget to enjoy life as it unfurls.

“Chill out” was the advice that rang true to me. I’ve learned —- the hard way —-  that there really is no point in mapping out life with make-or-break age restrictions dictated by old-school society rules. Who needs that pressure? I certainly didn’t.

If I could go back and whisper in my teenage self’s ear, I’d tell me to relax and enjoy the ride. At 18, I had already planned where I thought I had to be at 25 (though I still have two more years) —- a millionaire with a brillant job and a HOT, equally successful husband. Only the middle bit, is still on the works! The last part, in hindsight, was never a priority. OR SO I THOUGHT.

I look back now and shake my head. I don’t regret anything —- that seems pointless —- but I wish I had been more spontaneous. And about those New Year resolutions —- I ended up with a handful of simpler but much more impactful goals: work smarter, laugh harder, care less, smile brighter, buy better, worry lighter… really, relax and enjoy. Above all, moving on by FORGIVING others and myself (the best one). So far, I’m happy to say, it seems to be working out just fine. :)